Is coaching for you?

Why coaching, instead of another book

If you have made it this far, you have probably already done the noticing. You've read the books, listened to the podcasts highlighted the lines that made your chest tighten. You intellectually get what is happening to you, but you feel alone and stuck.

So why does it still feel stuck?

Because The Hollowing isn't an information problem, its a vantage problem. You can't see yourself clearly from insight The Hollowing. You can't be your own witness, thinking partner or mirror - because nobody can for themselves.

That's what coaching is. It is not advice or a method or a list of mindset hacks. It is a structured, witnessed conversation with someone whose only agenda is that you actually live the life you are capable of.

"The work isn't to figure it out. The work is to stop figuring it out alone."

Coaching works because:

• It moves you from noticing to moving, which is the gap most women get stuck in
• It gives you a structure outside yourself when your inner structure is wobbling
• It makes things sayable out loud that you've only said in your head
• It holds you accountable without making you feel managed
• It catches the patterns you can't see, because they're sitting too close to you

Coaching is not Therapy. Therapy looks back at what shaped you, whilst Coaching looks forward to who you are becoming. The two work beautifully alongside each other, or therapy before coaching, but they are not the same job and I am very careful about the difference.

Coaching is also not meant to last forever. The goal is for you to take coaching, use the tools and move forward without me, perhaps revisiting if you need a refresher in the future. But I firmly believe that Coaching is supposed to create independence, and that is my deepest wish for you.

How we'd work together

I work one-to-one and in workshops with women in what I call 'The Hollowing' — the messy middle, the gap between who you used to be and who you are becoming.

Workshops are built around three movements: Vision, what is actually there; Clarity, what you know; and, Becoming, living the vision. Workshops are typically 2 hours and are a warm, safe space with other women who are working through similar stages to you.

One-to-one coaching can be arranged by sending me an email. I typically work on 60 minute sessions, fortnightly or monthly — it is your choice. I will suggest what fits where you are in the work. Coaching typically runs for 3 to 6 months at most, not because the change takes that long but rather because the living of it does. The first month is about clearing the noise, the middle is the real work, and the end is anchoring the new shape so it holds as you move into your future self.

Coaching costs £450 for a 3-month package.

For a free 20 minute call to discuss one-to-one coaching, send me an email.

Is this for you?

I'm going to be honest about this, because honesty saves us both time.

This is for you if

• You used to know yourself, and you don't quite recognise the woman in the mirror right now
• You've done the noticing — books, podcasts, journals — and you're tired of just noticing
• You're willing to look at the parts of you that are hard to look at
• You want a coach who'll be warm with you and honest with you, not just one or the other
• You're not in crisis, you're in transition, and you would like company for the walk

This isn't for you if

• You're looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do (I won't)
• You want a single-session breakthrough or quick fix (real change is deeper than that)
• You're hoping I'll be relentlessly cheerful (I'm warm, but I'm not a cheerleader)
• You are in mental-health crisis. Coaching is not therapy and the right care for you is a therapist or your GP first
• You're not ready for the small, ordinary, daily work of being someone slightly different

If you read those and felt a quiet yes, even a tentative one, let's talk.

No pressure, no pitch. Just a conversation to see if we're right for each other.