Coaching
Is coaching for you?
Why coaching, instead of another book
If you've made it this far, you've probably already done the noticing. You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Highlighted the lines that made your chest tighten. You understand what's happening to you, at least intellectually.
So why does it still feel stuck?
Because The Hollowing isn't an information problem. It's a vantage problem. You can't see yourself clearly from inside it. You can't be your own witness, your own thinking partner, your own honest mirror — not because you're not capable, but because nobody can.
That's what coaching is. Not advice. Not a method. Not a list of mindset hacks. A structured, witnessed conversation with someone whose only agenda is that you actually live the life you're capable of.
"The work isn't to figure it out. The work is to stop figuring it out alone."
Coaching works because:
- It moves you from noticing to moving — which is the gap most women get stuck in
- It gives you a structure outside yourself when your inner structure is wobbling
- It makes things sayable out loud that you've only said in your head
- It holds you accountable without making you feel managed
- It catches the patterns you can't see, because they're sitting too close to you
It isn't therapy. Therapy looks back at what shaped you. Coaching looks forward at who you're becoming. The two work beautifully alongside each other, but they aren't the same job, and I'm careful about the difference.
How we'd work together
I work one-to-one with women in what I call the Hollowing — the messy middle, the gap between who you used to be and who you're quietly becoming. The work is built around three movements: Vision (seeing what's still alive in you), Permission (allowing yourself to want it), and Practice (turning it into actual lived days).
It looks like this:
Format
60-minute sessions online. No fancy platform, no app to download, no homework portal.
Cadence
Weekly or fortnightly, your choice. I'll suggest what fits where you are in the work.
Length of work
Most women I work with stay for 3 to 6 months. Not because the change takes that long, but because the living of it does. The first month is usually about clearing the noise. The middle is the real work. The end is anchoring the new shape so it holds when I'm not there.
Between sessions
You'll have voice-note access to me between calls. The work doesn't only happen on the calls. Most of it happens in the days afterwards, and I want to be in your pocket when a small wobble needs a witness.
What a session feels like
A conversation, not an interview. I'll ask questions you haven't been asked before. I'll notice things you can't notice from inside your own head. Sometimes there are written exercises. Sometimes there's silence. Sometimes there's a laugh. There's no script — but there is structure, and I hold it so you don't have to.
Investment
£930 for a 3-month package. Payment plans available on request.
Is this for you?
I'm going to be honest about this, because honesty saves us both time.
This is for you if
- You used to know yourself, and you don't quite recognise the woman in the mirror right now
- You've done the noticing — books, podcasts, journals — and you're tired of just noticing
- You're willing to look at the parts of you that are hard to look at
- You want a coach who'll be warm with you and honest with you, not just one or the other
- You're not in crisis — you're in transition, and you want company for the walk
This isn't for you if
- You're looking for someone to tell you exactly what to do (I won't)
- You want a single-session breakthrough or a quick fix (real change is quieter than that)
- You're hoping I'll be relentlessly cheerful (I'm warm, but I'm not a cheerleader)
- You're in acute mental-health crisis — coaching isn't therapy, and the right care for you is a therapist or your GP first
- You're not ready for the small, ordinary, daily work of being someone slightly different
If you read those and felt a quiet yes — even a tentative one — let's talk.
No pressure, no pitch. Just a conversation to see if we're right for each other.